Okay, you guys, it’s time.
Time for another dose of Obnoxious Positivity in Voiceover Land.
Time to send some Extra Sparkly Joy-Filled Delight into the hearts of those haters.
Time to Smash the Patriarchy, social media style.
This week, I posted on LinkedIn an absolutely delightful quote from one of my eLearning clients as a testimonial graphic. It was pretty, it was attention-grabbing, it was utterly positive because that email from my client made my day.
And of course, being filled with the Joy and Rapture of Voiceover Success, some colleagues and connections commented positively about what great feedback it was and other general congratulatory things. As is The Way, because here in Voiceover Land, we love one another and we celebrate one another’s success.
We pause here for a flashback montage:
Over the last few weeks on Linkedin, I have received some rather strange messages from a man I don’t know. Let’s call him, hmmm, the self-appointed Designated Operative of Patriarchal Enforcement. From the first message, he was clearly not interested in me as a voiceover artist or fellow businessperson.
He wanted me to look at some dress designs. Then he wanted some feedback on his website. I didn’t respond to these messages. If I recall correctly (I can no longer see these messages for reasons which will become clear), I said nought to him but an initial cursory “hi, great to meet you”.
Then, Mr D.O.P.E asked for my “heel size”. I don’t even know what that means. Does that mean my shoe size? The height of my high heels? What? I did not reply. If a random internet D.O.P.E wants to get kinky with my feet, he’s gonna have to try harder than that.
So, back to the Joy and Rapture of Voiceover Success. As I was faffing about on Linkedin, replying to lovely comments, up popped a message from Mr D.O.P.E. And another, and another.
Here’s what they said:
“U have over confidence.”
“Which cause you mental illness.”
“good luck to your mind set.”
I stared at these messages, and I thought to myself, well, huh.
When you feel confident you tend to make decisions that are good for you and your health. You are more likely to take care of yourself, get out and about, be active, and choose healthier foods. Confidence can also give you a positive outlook on life, increasing your mental and emotional wellbeing. – Jean Hailes
Does Mr D.O.P.E. know something I, and a bunch of easily-googleable experts, don’t?
Or is Mr D.O.P.E. … a hater? Does he lack the Joy and Delight of Self-Confidence? Does he think, like his patriarchal overlords, that an assertive, fabulous, talented woman who knows her own worth is somehow a threat?
Well, sir, this is all I have to say to you and your D.O.P.E. friends:
Truthfully, I did attempt to reply to Mr D.O.P.E.’s missives with an extremely confident and overly friendly message about how my self-confidence is just perfect, thank you very much – and that my heel size is none of his business! – but as I was typing, the messages disappeared and up came a notice “Are these messages spam or harassment? Click to report this user.” Thanks, LinkedIn. 🙂
So the poor ol’ D.O.P.E. missed out on my life-affirming reply – but hey, you don’t miss out! You get to read it right here, in a much more polished and Joyously Positive format:
Your self-confidence is a super-power. You know your talents and abilities, and you know what you’re worth. Your voiceover business is wonderful, and the hard work you put into it deserves recognition.
Haters are just people who want to be more like you, but don’t know how to do it. Forgive them, watch them drift past and keep them out of your head. I mean, first, you could write a blog post about them, I guess. THEN, get ‘em outta your head!
Every moment of triumph from booking your first job, to getting the attention of an awesome casting person, to hearing yourself on TV, to receiving a genuine piece of day-making feedback from a client, is there for the celebrating. Love yourself silly!
Thanks for all the Joyful, Encouraging, and Simply Fabulous support, Voiceover Land! I love you guys.